Friday, February 03, 2006
The Dating Game

I have to confess I am more than a little sleepy right now and quite tired. Slept at around past 1 last night and woke up at around 6:15. Although I didn't get out of bed until 6:40, I didn't manage to get back to sleep either.

And I am supposed to do some background today for my discussion with Rogue on Monday. I did look through a bit of stuff but I'm really a little dazed to hold my concentration for long. So I thought, "What better thing to do than come here and sprout rubbish?" Ok, so as mentioned earlier, I'd talk about some dating and related stuff that occurred before, during and after CNY.

I had went for a SDU speed dating session for Christians last Thursday. The session was relatively small, peopled by only 4 guys and 10 gals, which was a major surprise for me actually. Not the size of the group, which was for me, small, nice and cosy. The thing that surprised me was the lack of males in the session. Of course, I shouldn't really be complaining about this but it does make me wonder about the under-representation of guys. I will be attending another speed dating session next Wed, this time with Luna Esa, and guess what? Last Luna found out, the number of guys was only 3 (against 8 gals). Hmmm...really, this is weird. Where have all the men gone?

Ok, anyway, the session went alright. I didn't expect a lot and I wasn't given a lot. And as usual, you get your mixed bag of gals. These are the friendly, gregarious and jokey ones which I took an immediate liking to. There were the prim and proper ones (somehow most of the time, these are also the ones who are damn quiet), which I am ok with unless they start being anal. And there are those who are a mixture of the two.

Blah blah blah. Basically, I sieved out four of them that I'd like to, erm, tackle. Their names are (in alphabetical order) Alicia, Gerrie, Joy and Pris. Let me talk about each of them.

Alicia is a bubbly and gregarious gal, who also seemed canny and sensible in her observations of life. I like that a lot and I do find her personality extremely attractive to me.

Gerrie is a quiet girl. I didn't get to talk to her much abd don't know much about her. I confess the only reason why I wanna tackle her is because she's a bit of a looker. I have to work on the basis that she's more than what she lets out. I don't believe that she'd still be so quiet after she's warmed up to someone...but if she is...hmmm...geeez.

Joy is also bubbly and gregarious but there's something about her which make me hold back a little when talking to her. It could be that I felt she was a very prim and proper girl, it could be the feeling I got that she's a very devout person. It took me a few days to a few days to figure out why I was a little guarded with my cock-talking even though she was warm and laughed easily...she reminded me of my old pious, prim and proper ex-cell-group leader whom I had made weep through my distinct lack of passion. GULP!

Pris was something like Alicia, only even less inhibited. So should be better, right? Read on.

Due to some kind of weird arrangement by the organisers, I wasn't able to get their contacts immediately (more of that later). But I managed to get my hands on the contacts of Alicia, Joy and Pris.

So I emailed the three of them. Within two emails, I struck Pris off the list because she sounded lukewarm and less than enthusiastic to correspond. Alicia was her usual self and of the three, I wrote to her most often. I am arranging to meet her this weekend to get a better feel of what she is like but so far, it's been alright.

And as for Joy, phuah...guess what? I think she wants to invite me to her church. This is after I had mentioned during our chat that I wasn't attending any church now. I mean...wow man, xian chabo xian until go church, I must be a siao lang to have to do that. I understand, of course, it's not a bad thing and she means well...but all these reminds me uncannily of...my ex cell-group leader...GULP!

Anyway, the remaining one (and the one I confess I actually must wanna xian) is Gerrie. Now let me talk about how the event worked.

During the event, upon reaching and registering, each of us was given a sheet of paper containing a list of names of the participants of the opposite gender. And there were two questions which aplied to each name: Whether they are polite and respectful during the event and whether one'd like to meet them again. So with such a piece of paper, one would assume that matching would be done at the end of it all, right? If not, then why did they bother asking whether we'd like to meet them again?

But three days after the event, no one got any news. No matching, no follow-up, no nothing. In fact, I had gotten the contact list on my own iniative after going to the SDU website to find out what was going on. Nobody else even knew about the existence of this list until I alerted some of them to it. What the fcuk? And the list wasn't even comprehensive anyway, it didn't have Gerrie's contacts but had the contacts of most others. So well, I had to write a letter to the organisers yesterday night asking for clarification on what is actually happening or was supposed to happen.Were we supposed to exchange contacts on out own? If so, then say so lah, don't make people wait for nothing what!

Ok, as for Gerrie's contact, I got it off Alicia because I was aware that they were sitting at the same table and girls, somehow tended to exchange contacts (don't know for what, I never exchange contacts with guys. For fcuk? I have enough guy friends already), so well, I kind of tested her, found out she got Gerrie's contact and managed to get it. But I haven't contacted her yet...probably later tonight...while she still remembers the event.

And oh, I am meeting Lilian (Aunt Harriet's niece) next Thursday. Don't ask me why, I also don't quite know. I guess I felt a bit bad. Aunt Harriet did ask me about Lilian during CNY. It was inevitable. So I just played dumb to her queries but what surprised me was Lilian's side of the story. Apparently she expected me to call her. She didn't want to call me because she felt it was not right for girls to take iniative. I was like..."Huh? What the..." So ok loh, I call her and arrange to meet for dinner. No big deal really. But at this point I am really wondering what I am gonna talk about with her on that day.

That's a lot of cock and bull I just wrote but what's my point, really? I also don't know. It's just things that have happened to me the past week. A lot of cock and bull that's happening on the dating scene for me here. I had set a resolution that by the end of this year, I'd have to grab some unfortunate chabo with whom I can settle down permanently with. I still haven't got an inkling who that could be, nor may I have even met her yet. But the year still lies long ahead of me...so...boy oh boy...so tiring...