Friday, December 10, 2004
SDU Stigma

My bout of bad luck might be returning to me,seeing what had conspired in the last hour.Anyway,I has skipped lunch today because I wasn't really hungry at that time,having eatena decent breakfast of fried noodles with a fried egg and a 五香.Colossus opted to do the same thing as he too had a good brekfast and wasn't hungry (silly fellow,people who follow what I do usually end up finding themselves a lot worse off).My intention was to go down to a Old Change Kee stall at a kopitiam near my office to grab a curry puff and a stick of sotong balls at around 3 to satiate my hunger when it finally creeps up on me.

Well,at about 2 to 2:30,Colossus couldn't stand it anymore and went down to the canteen to grab a bite.I was still waiting for 3 of course but at that time,the sky started turning really dark and I think it probably started drizzling.Fine.So I just upped and left at 2:55,cheap $1.50 umbrella in hand,ready to meet the worst challenges that nature could throw at me.

The moment I hit the ground floor,I could see that it was drizzling slightly so I thought that it was still ok,with an umbrella in hand.Not quite true.Yes,I did have an umbrella but it was a cheap $1.50 "Made in China" brolly that the Chinese themselves wouldn't use (Mum,STOP buying cheap umbrellas for me).So when I opened it,I found the strong winds practically blew my brolly inside-out and upturned it.I could only maintain it in place if I held it against the wind.

Ok,fine...so I was just ambled my way down to the kopitiam and then lo and behold,what do I see when I reach the damn place?The Old Chang Kee has been replaced by a Nasi Lemak stall.NASI LEMAK???!!!I don't want Nasi Lemak,I want Old Chang Kee,damn it.So well,after thinking for a while on the spot,I finally decided to make my way back to the office and buy something from the canteen.

Sad to say,that wasn't the end of it.As I was inching my way back to the office,the rain started getting bigger and then out of nowhere,one of the spokes of the skeleton of my brolly broke and the canopy just sort of collapsed to one side.ARGH!!!I had to use one hand to support the collapsed side of the canopy while making my way back.When bad luck comes,it comes in a barrage.How nice.But one good thing did emerge from this?While at the kopitiam,I spotted this cute girl and our eyes sort of met for a while.It amounts to nothing of course but a pretty girl always makes my day.I am easily contented.

Dazzler emailed me this morning asking me and another person (I don't know who as the mail was bcc-ed but I think it's probably Psylocke) if I wanted to join the SDU and attend some activities with her.Since I was already a PAYING member but had absolutely never done anything there,I thought,"Why not?"After all,I had already paid for it but just sitting around on my bum doing nuts.I might as well makes use of the membership to attend some interesting events and maybe meet people,if I'm lucky which I know I'm not.Come to think of it,that must be the start of the spell of my bad luck.Dazzler informed me that as our ministry had bought a corporate gift membership pack,all of us working under it get to become members for free when we register...AND I paid $20 for my membership???天理何在?主啊，还我个公道吧.

Dazzler ( and to some degree) really has a defeatist mentality when it comes to meeting men because well,it's hard to find Indian men who don't find high educated and outspoken Indian women intimidating.And the number of Indian men is already quite a small pool in Singapore.As for Chinese men,they just don't date Indian women for one reason or another (don't ask me why).So the reason she wanted to join the activitie sis really for the activities alone and not to meet people because she figured she won't meet any.For me,it's probably the opposite but if the activity is boring,it'd still kill me anyway even if they have Cindy Crawford there.But well,she wanted and needed to find some company so well,sure,I am game for anything.

This joining of SDU thing really reminded me of something and that is:the "stigma" that young generation attach to joining such an organisation.Bascially,people who join it are seen to be really desperate.I have a question:Why?Are we living in the stone age that we can't be open-minded enough about matchmaking,dating services and this kind of stuff?Not everyone is a Brad Pitt with women falling all over to bear his children nor is every woman Aishwarya Rai with every men eager to marry her.And not everyone has the means and connections to widen their social circle effortlessly.So what's there to get hung up about?Your own insecurities,perhaps.or uninformed prejudices?

Frankly,I am amused because well,if you are someone who can't seem to find that special someone in your life but still likes to attach stigma to these dating agencies,I can assume you are the one with a problem,not those who joined.At least they are honest with themselves and realise this is another avenue to meet new people and somewhere down the line,maybe a spark may just fly somewhere,somehow and you meet that special someone.Fairplay to them,wouldn't you say?Better than people riding on high horses and not realising their feet's not touching the ground.And as for those Adonises who have people scrambling to be your soulmate,I congratulate you.Simple as that.

The proliferation of such agencies and websites also goes some way towards showing that these sites do have their own merits and I will not bet against their effectiveness.But anyway,what am I saying?Nothing much besides I'd probably be attending some events that SDU have organise if and when Dazzler needs my company.Oh,Luna Esa,I had thought you wanted to join some stuff as well?You could start joining some events and maybe even join us...if I know what Dazzler wants to attend.

It'd be knock-off time in a hour or so...just great.As you can see,I don't really have much to write about except to curse and rant at people.So this post ends here.

Have a good weekend.