Thursday, February 09, 2006
Public Service Nite

Readers, if you have read Luna Esa's blog entry on the SDU event she attended last night, then you'd know I also attended the above-titled event. Well, since she gave a short version/impression of how the event went, I will give mine (the guy's perspective). Naturally, I wouldn't bother to talk about the guys too much but I have to reiterate two points that Luna made about the guys.

One, it was true that the age of the guys there were rather, erm, high. That will have been a disappointment but keep in mind that there were also a few ladies there who were, well, not that young. These kind of things even out. I am sure these older ladies would prefer to have more mature guys there.

Secondly, hell yes. Mr Dark is a very attractive. Even I think he has quite a magnetic personality, can talk, joke very well, is tall and pretty good looking. That's a pretty good package to me. I think Luna does have good chemistry with this Mr Dark. This kind of thing doesn't always just occur like that, so Luna, please take the hint of what I am trying to say.

Now onto the girls...hmmm, what can I say? One by one. Since I went with Luna, I think I am entitled to comment about her. Don't mind me but I think she has a very attractive personality, is gregarious, bubbly and is quite pretty. If you ask me, I can only say, "What's there not to like?" The only thing I can say is that I am surprised guys don't go after her as much as they should.

There was a teacher there called Clara, another General Teacher (another because Pris is also a General Teacher). Erm, I kinda liked her but felt something was not right. Actually, she was the one I thought I'd fancy the moment she came in, kinda like a lesser version of Gerrie (I am talking about the effect she had on me, not the looks). I admit that I have the tendency to size up people before and during the introduction so that by the end of it, I already have a rough idea whether I'd want to follow up or not.

I find she is generally pretty candid, open and pretty articulate. That's well, pretty attractive to me. But after she shared about her previous experiences with SDU with us, I immediately felt something not right. Basically, she had bad experiences whereby weird guys followed up on her by asking, "When shall we go for a date?" and blah blah blah. She didn't really respond kindly to this so after a while, the guy just suddenly exclaimed, "I give up. I don't have so much patience." And well, stuff like that lah.

Now, I have to concede she reacted in the most plausibly correct way any girl would respond, by ignoring or just saying "No". But her inability to see things from another perspective bugged me. I think maybe because I had met girls like Alicia and Joy who are sensible and/or empathetic in their outlook, I thought maybe girls should all be like that. Not the case and it certainly doesn't have to be that way. In the end, I think following-up is not likely for me. I can't quite read her and it is too much of a leap of faith to follow up.

Next up, is this girl called Flora. Flora is a woman in her thirties. That just about automatically crosses her out from my mind. Listening to her talk later, I think I can reasonably deduct that she's a dominant, extraverted and drivened go-getter (who'd likely go for a guy if she fancies him rather than wait for the man to go after her) who definitely knows what she wants. Drivened, go-getter and dominant? Nah, pass lah. I like extraverted but not one that's dominant.

Cheer is a girl who works at A*STAR and is generally shy and quiet (but then again last nigth was the first time she attended a SDU event) but whom I can see is a very nice girl. I admit I didn't to her much and the good impression of her I have is based purely on intuition. Would I like to know more about her? I'd think about it but unlikely, because like Joy, I think she is just too nice. I am afraid of girls who are really good (then why the fcuk am I trying to xian Joy right now? Joy does have something as her trump card, her empathy. I find that damn sexy in a girl, man.)

And the final girl, Q. She didn't leave much of an impression on me besides that like Flora, she's too old for me...but that was until the final talk that we had. From what I hear and can hence, dedcue, she seems a curiously guarded person. Ok, I have to concede I think she's also quite a sensitive girl which is a good thing but her guardedness is slightly unappealing. She almost reminds me of Vivian Balakrishnan when she speaks. Guarded, measured, overly thoughtful as if afraid of upsetting anything and anyone around her.

So in the end, the sum total of the whole exercise is a big fat zero. No matter. I am still on the trail of Joy and Gerrie at the moment (which is another reason why I don't wanna follow up on Clara...doing multiple follow-ups can really cause schizophrenia) anyway things are quite alright. Still trying to find a way to get at Gerrie. There's some progress but she's going on mission trip to Cambodia soon so well, that gives me a bit of breathing space on thinking how to go after her. And damn, I am going out for a dinner with Lilian tonight...I am not sure whether I am looking forward to that.